There still remains a myth in the wider community that parenting is totally joyous, wonderful and easy. In fact sometimes it seems impossible to actually publically express the frustrations, fears and stress we feel at times during our parenting. ....... Or the loneliness we feel at times.

It is important to feel supported and to have a network of support structures and people around you that you can trust and who are willing to listen to you. Here are some ideas that may be helpful.

• Remember: Parenting always has its challenging times and it is quite normal to feel concerned, exhausted and worried sometimes. It isn't just you.
• In order to parent well, to make appropriate decisions and to have the emotional energy for your children it is important to look after yourself. The more energy you have, the more you have to give to your children.
• Ensure that at least once a week you do something for yourself without your children. For example, go to the gym or play some sport or catch up regularly with some friends or family.
• Eat well, rest and ensure you have regular sleep.
• Ensure you have at least two people you are close to who you can speak honestly with about your children and your parenting.
• If you have a partner ensure you go out regularly with each other to enjoyable activities, the movies, sporting activities or dinner with friends. If you haven't got a partner, go out with friends and ensure you have some enjoyable times with other adults.
• Check out local government family and children's services supports. Often local governments provide talks and workshops on parenting as well as referrals to counsellors.
• Stress management: Find something such as relaxation, massage, meditation, yoga, or exercise to help you relax and deal with stress. This doesn't have to be expensive. A walk in the park can be just as relaxing.
• Check out local services such as playgroups, library sessions and other parent groups so you are not isolated and alone at home.
• If you think you are depressed or really not coping at the current time, call your local doctor or talk with someone professionally to gain some immediate help.

Being a parent doesn't mean losing your identity. As well as being a parent and perhaps a partner, you are also someone in your own right. Take time to socialise, join a club, do things for yourself so that not only are you parenting, but you are remembering your identity and growing as a person.